Why you can’t just do it, and what to do instead When I was writing my PhD I didn’t have bad weeks. I had bad months. The kind when each day you wake up thinking, “Today I will actually do the thing” and then you… don’t. Somehow the day ticks…

It’s time to think about self-transformation in a different way — Several years ago, I was on an academic fellowship and pretty sure I was failing at it. I’d envisioned myself getting to my office early every day, spending several hours virtuously writing, and then knocking off at 3 p.m. for a run. …

And it’s keeping us from doing the things we actually want to do. — When I was in grade school, my lowest report-card score was always in the same category: Exercises Self-Control. That I still remember this exact wording roughly 40 years later says something about how much it hit home, and not just because my parents were the type to take report cards…

Just because it’s not good at steering or navigating doesn’t mean you need to leave it by the side of the road. Lately I’ve noticed my women clients saying things like “I know that’s just my ego talking” or “I know I shouldn’t care about the compliment, because that’s just…

You’d probably tell me exactly where to get off. And you’d be right. So why let yourself keep doing it? Sign up for a free masterclass with me on 24 and 25 January 2023, 12.30 pm NYC/5.30 pm London. Based on messages I receive, there’s a pretty clear consensus about the most resonant things I say when I write about internal resistance. And it’s not actually the stuff about…

The longer we’ve been trying to change, the more likely we are to envision transformation in a way that keeps us stuck. Learn how to approach change in a way that actually works. A free masterclass. 24 and 25 January 2023, 12.30 pm NYC/5.30 pm London. Sign up here. Whether you’re struggling with hiding (not using your talents fully), chasing (doing it but feeling miserable), or…

A free one-hour workshop. Choose to attend either Friday, 6 January 2023 or Saturday 7 January 2023 at 12 pm New York/5 pm London time. On Zoom. Sign up here. When you wake up every day determined to do something and then go to bed every night knowing you didn’t do it, it can feel completely baffling. Like: I know I want to go to grad school. Or get this promotion. Or start my business. So…

Why visions of personal transformation wind up keeping us stuck — and what to do instead. Here’s a fun game our brains love to play at the end of the year: making a mental list of up all the things we didn’t manage to do this year. …

A one-hour event where I teach you some of the best stuff I know about how to get around internal resistance — and coach some volunteers too. In the year since I published my Medium essay on internal resistance, I’ve heard from so many people about their struggles to do…